Death. An enemy. A defeated enemy. But it sure does hurt when someone you love is suddenly gone.
Death is all around us on a daily basis; however, we often are so consumed in our daily lives that we hardly notice. That is, until it hits close to home and then it stops us cold in our tracks. It also seems, for me at least, that is comes in waves. Nothing major for many weeks and then you have one tragic circumstance upon another.
This past couple of weeks has been like that. It started nearly two weeks ago with the news of Dr. Forrest Polluck, Pastor of Bell Shoals Baptist Church in Florida. He was a pilot on the side. He had taken his 13 year old son with him on a plane he was flying. They left Asheville, NC and then went missing only to be found a few days later…no survivors. http://www.bellshoals.com/pages/page.asp?page_id=35862
Then came news this past Thursday that Steven Curtis Chapman lost his 5 year old daughter, Maria, in a tragic car accident. http://chapmanchannel.typepad.com/inmemoryofmaria/?roi=farm-12740500-88803-09f85a281c0f14b0198bdb1a347feaea&
That same Thursday my Youth Pastor’s wife had a checkup, her baby is due in a little over three weeks. Everything looked fine. By yesterday morning, Saturday, she had not felt the baby move in awhile. They went to the hospital and found that there was no heartbeat. That evening she had to go through all of labor and delivery to give birth to Nathaniel Philip - who was already in heaven.
Don’t ask me why? I don’t know. I like to be the problem solver. I like to fix things for folks. Nothing doing here. I am at loss for answers to the why questions.
That said, there are a few things I do know for sure.
1. Some ask “Where was God in all of these tragic situations?” God was in the same place He was when His innocent Son hung on the cross in our place. The tragic rain of difficult circumstances falls on the righteous and the unrighteous. The only difference is that the righteous walk through the storms with the Lord as their rock and their anchor. As believers in Jesus, we are promised both trouble and victory (John 16:33; 1 John 4:4; 5:4-5). We can confidently cast our cares upon Him because of His great love for us (1 Pet. 5:7).
2. Some think, “How sad that these young children missed out on life.” Please don’t think that anyone who goes to heaven, regardless of age, missed out on anything. At its best, this world is a shadow of the glory in heaven. We still grieve, but for ourselves, not those in heaven (2 Sam. 12:21-23). We grieve because we have missed out on their life here on earth. How sad for us. How glorious for them.
3. Grief is normal, natural, and even necessary. Death came into the world as a result of sin. It is not pleasant; it is an enemy. However, because it is a defeated enemy, we can grieve with hope. (1 Thess. 4:13) Christ has defeated death with His victorious resurrection (1 Cor. 15:55-57). Death is no longer an end for the believer, rather it is simply a transfer of address (2 Cor. 5:6-9).
4. As difficult as it is to go through tragic circumstances, it sure is an opportune time for the Family of God to show what they are really made of. We rejoice with our brothers and sisters in Christ in the triumphs of life. We grieve and support one another during the tough times (Rom. 12:12-13, 15; 1 Cor. 12:25-26). Sometimes we are intimidated because we don’t know what to say. But that is just it. You don’t have to say anything (in fact, it often is better if you don’t). Just be there. A shoulder to cry on. A hand to hold. An embrace. A tear. A prayer. Those simple things speak volumes to those who are in the midst of crisis. It is times like this that I have seen the love of God shine forth in brilliance - through His people, loving one another.
1 Corinthians 15:54-57
54 Now when this corruptible is clothed with incorruptibility, and this mortal is clothed with immortality, then the saying that is written will take place: Death has been swallowed up in victory.
55 O Death, where is your victory? O Death, where is your sting?
56 Now the sting of death is sin, and the power of sin is the law.
57 But thanks be to God, who gives us the victory through our Lord Jesus Christ!