This past Sunday I preached on the key to successful parenting. Several people have asked for a copy of the top 10 list for parenting that I closed the sermon with this past Sunday. This list did not originate with me but comes from Kevin Leman. I got it out of the book Illustrations Unlimited. I think they are very insightful. I have split the list into two parts so that it won’t be too long. The words italicized in bold are my thoughts.

1. My hands are small; please don’t expect perfection whenever I make a bed, draw a picture, or throw a ball. My legs are short; slow down so that I can keep up with you. Try walking around with your hands up all the time and you begin to get an idea of what it is like to walk around as a child always holding a hand. Chill out. Slow down. Savor the moments.

2. My eyes have not seen the world as yours have; let me explore it safely; don’t restrict me unnecessarily. Through the years we have gotten complacent about the wonders of the world. Children are a blessing that can help us regain the wonder as we see things through their eyes. Keep them safe, but let them explore. Watch them. Watch what they are watching. Experience the wonder anew.

3. Housework will always be there; I’m little only for a short time. Take time to explain things to me about this wonderful world, and do so willingly. Don’t get frustrated with the questions, especially the “why’s.” It is easy to be impatient, but this is how our children learn. Even more importantly, it shows them that we love them enough to listen to them.

4. My feelings are tender; don’t nag me all day long (you would not want to be nagged for your inquisitiveness). Treat me as you would like to be treated. The best way to avoid nagging is to clearly explain consequences for disobedience or not abiding by your instructions and then STICK TO IT! Don’t keep arguing or urging or complaining or nagging. Lay it out there and then stick to your guns. The more consistent you are in follow-through, the less you will have to nag.

5. I am a special gift from God; treasure me as God intended you to do–holding me accountable for my actions, giving me guidelines to live by, and disciplining me in a loving manner. We must discipline and train, but we need not do so harshly or in anger. Gentle correction is a great way to go.

(see the final 5 on Monday, April 21)